Love and stuff

What happened on Sunday and Monday with 2 sets of friends splitting up made me sit and re-look at what it is, I want and more importantly what I need in a relationship, a list of requirements of sorts for what will hopefully be a successful relationship of some sort at some point. It’s funny really because I thought the list would be littered with girly things like love, marriage,children and romance, yes that silly girl fairytale we all believe and yet it’s not. Yes they would be nice but I realized that they are by no means essential. I would rather have things like respect, shared interests, laughter, trust, fun, passion, understanding and of course I personally need to be needed and then there is the deal breaker, well for me anyway, the freedom to be who you are and to grow. I mean what’s the point of being with someone who is going to stop you growing as a person and try to keep you the way you are. It’s funny really when I look back I would have never have thought that love and romance would not be numbers 1 and 2 on my list, I never thought someone’s respect would mean more to me than that girly love and marriage notion we all grow up with. I’ve realized that that fictional version of love doesn’t exist in the real world and that it’s far easier to be happy with someone who you can laugh with, who makes you feel good about yourself than it ever was when I was waiting for that thunderbolt that said now I’m happy and in love.