At odds

It’s been one of those weeks where things happen that are so just so, h3ll I’m not even sure what they are but I guess at odds would be a good place to start. . . .

Sunday night I heard from a friend that she had finally asked her husband for a divorce and he’d agreed. This one was the one that we all have had suspicions about for a long time so it came as no surprise. It’s sad to say that I’ve had my doubts about them since I met them and nothing I’ve seen in the 5 years I’ve known them has ever given me reason to believe that they could make it, even the birth of their son just on 3 years ago was just delaying the inevitable. I have to give them both their dues though they fought for 10 years to make it work before giving in and I would have been glad to see a different outcome because it would have proved me wrong and maybe renewed hope. Now I sadly only get to be there for yet another set of friends who will end up getting hurt by friends that genuinely care about them but end up taking sides. Divorces may be amicable the division of friends never is. Although with all she stands to lose this one has killer battle written all over it.

You may have figured from my post on boxes that I spent Monday night helping yet another friend leave (yep 2 in 2 days go figure). This one I’m not all that sure about, personally I think she’s nuts or at least her reasoning is. To me “he doesn’t get me and isn’t there for me” just isn’t a reason enough to give up after 6 months and leave especially not when just a month ago you bought a house and decided to try for a baby. Not when I know he worships the ground you walk on and literally has and would do anything for you. I think it’s an easy out so you don’t need to work on what ever it is that’s really wrong and yes I have my suspicions what the real cause is and if I’m right well good luck to you but taking sides here isn’t going to be difficult, I may have helped you pack but that’s the last support you’re getting from me.

Tuesday’s took me surprise though, in fact it was so far off the field of expectations that when I heard you could have probably knocked me over with a feather. In fact it’s so surprising I still don’t quite believe it. And no it wasn’t another split either even though that was what I was expecting but something hopefully far happier. Now this is a couple that if you had asked me about I would have told you that about 2 years ago they became purely phone friends when I stopped seeing them because I couldn't stand being expected to take sides in their fights about everything from the color of the new bedroom curtains to the choice of the youngest child’s middle name. To everyone who knew them it was one of those count the days till they either kill each other or split relationships, so the news that they had after nearly 10 years of turbulence, fighting, trial separations and plain old doom and gloom decided that they love each other more than ever and would be renewing the marriage vows next weekend will have left more than one of us shocked, some even dazed and confused.

So here I am sad for a couple that really have tried but still failed, angry at someone who is about to be a used to be friend for not having the guts to be honest or to fight, and for what she’s doing to a really good man and happy for a couple who for all intents and purposes should have failed and yet have literally fought their way back into each others hearts. As I said events that if nothing else are at odds. . . . . .