LOVE

Ok, so the writting bug has bitten :P
Missed it I did :D

I've had a couple of things that have been on my mind lately and I guess circumstances have just pushed them to the back of my mind again, but something I've been giving a LOT of thought to was thrust back to the fore again this morning with this simple line posted by a friend at the end of his post today. "but i implore you, LOVE, goddamit LOVE today with everything you have." Sadly it always seems to take tragedy to make us remember these things and normally only for a little while.

I have been trying for a long time now to live with love, I've let it back into my life in all forms after a very long absence and as bad as things have been I don't regret it for a moment, in all honesty I don't think I'd have made it this far is I hadn't let back in but that's another story all together.

What I have been mulling over though as I have in previous posts is how we define love, this time though there have been a few additions in the form of how do we express that love once we've defined it, trick question with an even trickier answer it turns out and then of course there is my million dollar favourite question, once we have defined love how can we be expected to love only one person. I've heard some strange reasoning behind this one's answers none of them have wrung truer than my own definition though and so I've decided since I feel like writting I may as well tackle these three questions and yes I'm guessing it's going to be a multiple post quest for answers again because they're actually all very complex and yet simple questions that need a little time of their own

So here it is the classical definition of love



But is that really how we need to define love, are we then not setting ourselves up for inevitable failure since we as humans are inherently distrustful, self serving, envious, proud and all those things love is not meant to be. Is love not better served by being defined as acceptance of who or what a person is with all his or her faults and foibles?? Is love not better served by being able to see and bring out the best in a person rather than looking for and expecting the worst in them??

I know I don't have a concrete answer and I probably never will have, but I have discovered that love on my terms, to my definition suits me and works for me and I guess thats all any of us can do. Find our own definition of love and work forward from there.